4/28/2010

A Heart that Heals

The hurt that takes place in our minds and in our hearts is not so easy to see.

Physical injuries are easily noticed by people. A cut, a broken bone, or a bruise can easily be treated by doctors. Emotional injuries, on the other hand, tend to run deeper. They hide in our subconscious and can sometimes stay there for a very long time, can easily be hidden, but are much harder to treat.

At some point in our lives, most of us have, in some considerable way, been hurt and wounded.  The physical wounds can be seen and the forms of remedy are fairly straightforward and uncomplicated. 

The hurts that takes place in our minds and in our hearts are not so easy to see. We choose to hide them in the darkest recesses of our minds. This is what many call denial.

Although many of us know that it’s best to deal with the issues, we often find ourselves feeling powerless, unable to free ourselves from the chains that burden us with the weight. The more we try to run away from it, the faster it seems to catch up to us.

To be able to heal ourselves from the pain, we have to address it rather than run away.  We often lack the ability to understand the true significance of coping with it. Fact is,  when we face these issues, we are able to understand the reasons behind it. Our experiences sometimes tell us to have expectations that are not necessarily accurate.

We live in this small box and refuse to see anything beyond what is real to us.

At the heart of healing is an experience. It is being able to live in the moment of suffering rather than locking ourselves away and shutting out the rest of the world. We try to find ways to cope, maybe through alcohol or by whisking ourselves to a place far away.

We have to allow ourselves to feel what is deep inside us to become aware of reality. Whatever may have caused this deep pain, whether it is the loss of a loved one or a fight with a friend, things happen simply because they were meant to.

What we most need during these trying times is the presence of people who truly and unconditionally love us. Love can come in many forms: in the comforting embrace of a family member, in the prayers of a friend, or in the good wishes of the people we meet.

When the pain is just too unbearable to bear, it is not always possible to respond to it immediately. That's why it is most important to cultivate healthy relationships with the people that surround us.

What happens if you’ve surrounded yourself with a great support system is the ability to get over the pain more quickly. We have to give love to get love. This will be your greatest blessing because we know that we will always have someone to lean on when the burden just gets too heavy.

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