Your heart is central to your healing. Though you think with your mind, your heart feels the pain.
Sometimes, we look back at the most difficult moments in our life and find that there are still some experiences that we have yet to accept. Getting over a situation is not as easy as we think, especially if we’ve been hurt badly. A recent divorce can leave some men and women unwilling to get into another relationship; a death of a loved one has some denying what actually happened, or a fight with a friend has left people bitter and resentful. Whatever the reason, these painful experiences can be traumatic. In fact, some carry the scars all throughout their lives.
Life has a way of revealing its secrets, and as cliché as this sounds, things really do happen for a reason. It’s easy to say when you’re not the one experiencing pain, right? Of course, but then again, we’ve all gone through some sort of hurt at one point or another. And as time passes, we do get over it and see the reasons behind it.
To start healing your life, you must first learn the value of forgiveness. This is a powerful thing because it helps us get past the barriers that hold us back. You never forget the things that have happened to you. The memory of it is ingrained deep within your heart.
Forgiveness is not about forgetting as some people might think. Forgiveness is simply an act of acceptance. Things happened to you, and these have emotionally scarred you.
Acknowledge the pain and learn from it. If a person hurt you terribly and doesn’t even show any sign of remorse, know that it is not your job to change that person. Just accept the way he or she is, understand the situation, and walk away, if you have to. After all, you don’t have to be a martyr to become a better human being. What will set you apart will be your ability to move on and not look back.