At the heart of the most successful relationships is respect. Whether the relationship is professional or personal, there's a certain kind of admiration held for that person. If you want people to respect you, you also have to show that you deserve it.
Some people mistake respect for fear. The difference between these two is the fact that people actually like the people they respect. They respect the people they fear simply because they are afraid of the repercussions if they go against the desires of that person. Fear doesn't create friendships, respect does.
Have you ever taken a moment to define what it is like to truly respect someone? Be completely sincere with the person you respect and don't do anything to hurt thrm. In return, you will become good friends, because the relationship is based on mutual trust and respect.
If you find yourself with a person who doesn't treat you with any value, a relationship is doomed for failure. Get up and leave. If you stick around with this person, it can end up hurting either one of you. It is simply a futile effort to try to salvage things you know deep down aren't going to change.
Other people's beliefs may differ from yours, but what is most important is that you acknowledge your differences and move on. You were all raised in different environments and have different ways in coping with issues.
Recognize that each person is unique and that what is most important is the intention behind their actions. They act on things because of what their beliefs are, and it doesn't always have to be about you, so don't take it personally if they go against your wishes.
This is where communication plays a pivotal role. By talking things through, you can come to an agreement which will help you understand others better. If reaching a mutual understanding is impossible to do, then get out.
Keep in mind that it's always your choice. No one can force anything on you if you don't allow them to. The key ingredient to this healthy assertiveness is self love.
Know your worth and treat people the way you'd want them to treat you. The golden rule comes into play here, and it is the most basic and most important of beliefs. Simply stated, to get respect, you have to give respect!
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