Emotional Maturity and Happiness
Emotional maturity is the ability to see life through a clear glass. The capability to manage your emotions and take full responsibility for your life is one of the necessary skills that will enable you to achieve victory, stability, and bliss.
Happiness can be equated to how you feel about yourself. The more confident you are, the more you are able to see the brighter side of life. When you feel depressed, you bring yourself and others down with you. You go on a downward spiral until you break down. You go through the daily struggles of life with no hope for a happier tomorrow. You start to lose the will to even attempt to overcome the smallest obstacle.
The truth is, you are in charge of our destiny. Your happiness is connected with how you see yourself as a person. You have to know that you are worth something.
There may be instances when it is appropriate to feel guilty and resentful. You have either totally lost faith in the system or you may no longer value the things that are thrown in your path. You are, of course, allowed to experience these emotions. However, you have to let them go quickly so that they leave no long term negative residual effects. To get stuck in a rut is detrimental to both your health and sanity.
You shouldn't hide from the bad things happening to you, neither should you embrace them. You just have to see them as they are. It's a dilemma you have to overcome and a puzzle you have to solve. Problems don't go away when you sulk. Find ways to get rid of the negative energy and move on. When you constantly look back, you will dwell on what's past. The future is there waiting, and you will only see it if you look forward.
You have to dream, anticipate, plan, and make goals to achieve what you desire. Live your life in the present to attain the future that you want. Negative emotions, when given time and energy, will take their toll on some aspect of your life in the future.
There is no need to beat yourself up because of your unrealistic expectations. Everyone goes through difficult times, and when this happens to you, make sure you understand the situation. Analyze and think of solutions. It's a whole lot better than sulking. The more you evaluate the problem, the better your chances of finding the answer to happiness.
Be confident and Trust Yourself