Could it be too late for us to make a career change?
We go to high school, go to college, and concentrate on our careers. The universities prepare us for the real world by enhancing our talents so that we do well in our chosen fields. We continue living this somewhat happy life but find ourselves growing more and more restless each day. We wonder, and then wham! The realization hits us: we are no longer happy with our jobs. We realize after years of study that this isn't what we wanted after all.
Then we wonder, could it be too late for us to make a career change? What if this is just a phase of our lives much similar to a mid-life crisis? Before we make any final decision, we have to think things through. We have to know that life is an ongoing learning experience, and regardless of age, there are too just too many aspects to learn in life that a lifetime is not enough to figure all these out.
Change is inevitable, and it doesn't mean we cannot learn to make something worthwhile of the necessary changes that life presents. Our careers keep us on a steady path, but when we are no longer happy, it's difficult to stay on that path. We cannot help but veer away from it. It's human nature to stay away from the things that displease us.
No matter how much we earn, we need to achieve the feeling of true accomplishment if we really want to be happy. Once we've decided on what to really concentrate on and specialize in, we need to plan how to equip ourselves with the skills needed to earn that job. Letting go of our present careers completely may be too difficult to undertake. This is our bread and butter at the moment, and we would unable to do anything if there is no income. Plan and make the shift slowly. If we have to offer extra hours at night, so be it. If the end result makes us happy, then we might have to work hard to reach it.
When making a big decision to change your path, you may need some help. You should never hesitate to ask for it. We need someone who can help us put everything in perspective. Seeking support can help us to stay afloat if we feel like we're drowning.
Making a major change is always a tough decision. Ideally, we should have made the choice even before entering college, but it is never too late for anyone. Nowadays, we all can make something of ourselves with the help of modern technology. As long as we have the drive to enrich ourselves with the skill, doors will always be open for us.
Choosing Your Life's Path
10/30/2009
10/24/2009
How to Talk Your Way to a Promotion
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it
It takes guts to move up the corporate ladder. The daily grind of work can be stressful, and when you are up against people who are equally competitive, you need to make an even bigger impression. In today's competitive world, the possibility of succeeding becomes more difficult and challenging. You work yourself to the bone, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same position with the same measly salary.
When killing yourself with work doesn't bring you closer to your desired position, gather up the courage to negotiate with your supervisor. All types of successful negotiations begin with being clear about what you truly want from the company. Being aggressive and pushy may just get you into trouble. Your supervisors demand respect, and even when they are at fault, you need to be the humble person here.
The best way to negotiate is to show the higher-ups why you deserve the job. Yearly employee evaluations are always the best times to bring up a matter or talk about an issue. Be diplomatic and tactful when you tell them why you deserve the job. Never forget to mention your capabilities and highlight your strengths. People get promoted when they meet and exceed the expectations set for them. Devote time to doing your job well, and if you have been successful, it will be to showcase your quality of work.
So how exactly can you make your work better? Well, you need to take a step back and see how your specific duties contribute to the bigger picture. Research if you must so that you arm yourself with the skills needed to fulfill that dream position. Focus your research on a specific field. It helps to know the market trend, and when you display immense knowledge on a certain subject matter, your superiors will feel that you are able to make the right choice when the time comes.
Of course, part of every learning experience is making mistakes. You should not get frustrated when something goes wrong. Nobody's perfect and neither are you! Accept your limitations and be open to suggestions from those with experience. Ask for help if you must because people will respect you more if they see that you are willing to learn.
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it. Keep your focus on the right path and develop the attitude of a go-getter. You will definitely get that coveted position if you work on your skills and your attitude.
Working toward a Happy Life
It takes guts to move up the corporate ladder. The daily grind of work can be stressful, and when you are up against people who are equally competitive, you need to make an even bigger impression. In today's competitive world, the possibility of succeeding becomes more difficult and challenging. You work yourself to the bone, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same position with the same measly salary.
When killing yourself with work doesn't bring you closer to your desired position, gather up the courage to negotiate with your supervisor. All types of successful negotiations begin with being clear about what you truly want from the company. Being aggressive and pushy may just get you into trouble. Your supervisors demand respect, and even when they are at fault, you need to be the humble person here.
The best way to negotiate is to show the higher-ups why you deserve the job. Yearly employee evaluations are always the best times to bring up a matter or talk about an issue. Be diplomatic and tactful when you tell them why you deserve the job. Never forget to mention your capabilities and highlight your strengths. People get promoted when they meet and exceed the expectations set for them. Devote time to doing your job well, and if you have been successful, it will be to showcase your quality of work.
So how exactly can you make your work better? Well, you need to take a step back and see how your specific duties contribute to the bigger picture. Research if you must so that you arm yourself with the skills needed to fulfill that dream position. Focus your research on a specific field. It helps to know the market trend, and when you display immense knowledge on a certain subject matter, your superiors will feel that you are able to make the right choice when the time comes.
Of course, part of every learning experience is making mistakes. You should not get frustrated when something goes wrong. Nobody's perfect and neither are you! Accept your limitations and be open to suggestions from those with experience. Ask for help if you must because people will respect you more if they see that you are willing to learn.
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it. Keep your focus on the right path and develop the attitude of a go-getter. You will definitely get that coveted position if you work on your skills and your attitude.
Working toward a Happy Life
10/22/2009
A Life with a Purpose
Your main purpose in life should be making yourself happy and content
Many people live their lives aimlessly. They go through the motions of activities robotically, as if they were simply expected to perform their duties with no questions asked. Then, in time, they find themselves stopping and asking themselves why they're doing something that doesn't make them happy in the first place.
Many eventually question the things that they do in life. Others, unfortunately, still go through life drifting aimlessly for the simple reason that it gives them instant monetary gratification.
Your main purpose in life should be making yourself happy and content. Know that when you work on improving yourself, you will never look back with regret, or worse, with pity for yourself and what you've become. You need a mission that fires your innermost passion and inspires you to pursue even further.
Without a goal in mind, you simply are going through a form of drudgery that eventually extinguishes your inner fire.
You have to be focused as you single-mindedly pursue the things that make you feel complete. Of course, reaching your goals is not always easy. If it were, then the world should have been completely emancipated from problems. It is a journey where you also have to make a decision on which road to take. Let your conscience guide you because even with dreams, you can never be happy if you live with a heavy heart.
A person's life is made up of an infinite number of moments. Make these moments count and make sure that even if it is always not filled with laughter, you take something from every experience. Enjoy your relationships and take care of yourself. These are the foundations to any form of life. Who are you when you can't lean on someone? The people around you define who you are. They will provide you with the support you'll need during difficult times.
With each moment towards your dream comes careful planning.
When you realize what your innermost desires are, you now have your ultimate purpose in life. Your mission is to perform the tasks to make your wants a reality. It makes life worthwhile when you know you are working towards something.
The happiest discovery you will ever make is that your journey reveals to you all the delights and pleasures of life. Savor the small tasks along the way because these add up to something big, something spectacular. Your mission is to understand things and know that your experiences are there to make you the best person you can be. You can only be your ideal self when you accept what life offers and find ways to deal with it rather than cower from it.
Work for a Happy Life
Many people live their lives aimlessly. They go through the motions of activities robotically, as if they were simply expected to perform their duties with no questions asked. Then, in time, they find themselves stopping and asking themselves why they're doing something that doesn't make them happy in the first place.
Many eventually question the things that they do in life. Others, unfortunately, still go through life drifting aimlessly for the simple reason that it gives them instant monetary gratification.
Your main purpose in life should be making yourself happy and content. Know that when you work on improving yourself, you will never look back with regret, or worse, with pity for yourself and what you've become. You need a mission that fires your innermost passion and inspires you to pursue even further.
Without a goal in mind, you simply are going through a form of drudgery that eventually extinguishes your inner fire.
You have to be focused as you single-mindedly pursue the things that make you feel complete. Of course, reaching your goals is not always easy. If it were, then the world should have been completely emancipated from problems. It is a journey where you also have to make a decision on which road to take. Let your conscience guide you because even with dreams, you can never be happy if you live with a heavy heart.
A person's life is made up of an infinite number of moments. Make these moments count and make sure that even if it is always not filled with laughter, you take something from every experience. Enjoy your relationships and take care of yourself. These are the foundations to any form of life. Who are you when you can't lean on someone? The people around you define who you are. They will provide you with the support you'll need during difficult times.
With each moment towards your dream comes careful planning.
When you realize what your innermost desires are, you now have your ultimate purpose in life. Your mission is to perform the tasks to make your wants a reality. It makes life worthwhile when you know you are working towards something.
The happiest discovery you will ever make is that your journey reveals to you all the delights and pleasures of life. Savor the small tasks along the way because these add up to something big, something spectacular. Your mission is to understand things and know that your experiences are there to make you the best person you can be. You can only be your ideal self when you accept what life offers and find ways to deal with it rather than cower from it.
Work for a Happy Life
10/18/2009
Your Lifes Direction
Most of us don't know our direction in life.
Ever find yourself waking up one morning up full of zest and energy to pursue your life's dreams and then realize another six months have gone by and you aren't even one step closer to any of your goals? If you find yourself in this rut, then maybe it's because you've been caught in a trap, the kind that is difficult to get out of. Where are you headed? Do you know? Where have your dreams gone? Have you just pushed them aside?
Most of us don't know our direction in life. We live with so many dreams inside us but somehow we keep finding ourselves finding excuses to delay the pursuit of our goals. We offer up so many excuses: bills to pay, family to take care of, work to finish, etc. Too many excuses and too many delaying tactics.
In the end, when we see that we haven't accomplished much, we have no one to blame but us. We don't want to live life this way. But then, who does?
We get off track time and again, as most people do. We get too caught up in life's little hindrances that we forget to live in the moment, to enjoy the present! The reason for all the confusion may lie on the fact that our dreams are not as well-defined as we would want them to be.
The problem, therefore, is focus. We must have clarity of thought to know how we can accomplish what we want. We need a step-by-step plan that spells out what we have to do to get to the end. When we experience setbacks, we have to know how to deal with each of them.
After all, nothing in life is perfect. There are just things that are way beyond our control, and if we live life going a step forward and then two steps back, we go further away from our dreams. The farther we go, the more impossible it will seem to get what we want.
It's also important to acknowledge the situation we're in. We all live in different environments and have different methods of coping with reality. The important thing is to be in touch with the things that happen around us. Knowing how our surroundings affect us will give us clues on what to do with the inevitable limitations set on us.
We can sometimes fall flat on our faces and commit social faux pas along the way. If this happens, just remember it's not the end of the world. We get up, keep moving, and come up with an even better plan. We don't need to be super heroes to avoid traps. What we need is an interminable spirit to continue on despite mistakes.
We have to be our own biggest supporter, the person who cheers the loudest during game time. Otherwise, who will believe in a person who doubts? Let us start chasing our dreams, stop running away from harsh reality, and take the time to map our life's direction.
Steering Yourself towards the Path You Choose
Ever find yourself waking up one morning up full of zest and energy to pursue your life's dreams and then realize another six months have gone by and you aren't even one step closer to any of your goals? If you find yourself in this rut, then maybe it's because you've been caught in a trap, the kind that is difficult to get out of. Where are you headed? Do you know? Where have your dreams gone? Have you just pushed them aside?
Most of us don't know our direction in life. We live with so many dreams inside us but somehow we keep finding ourselves finding excuses to delay the pursuit of our goals. We offer up so many excuses: bills to pay, family to take care of, work to finish, etc. Too many excuses and too many delaying tactics.
In the end, when we see that we haven't accomplished much, we have no one to blame but us. We don't want to live life this way. But then, who does?
We get off track time and again, as most people do. We get too caught up in life's little hindrances that we forget to live in the moment, to enjoy the present! The reason for all the confusion may lie on the fact that our dreams are not as well-defined as we would want them to be.
The problem, therefore, is focus. We must have clarity of thought to know how we can accomplish what we want. We need a step-by-step plan that spells out what we have to do to get to the end. When we experience setbacks, we have to know how to deal with each of them.
After all, nothing in life is perfect. There are just things that are way beyond our control, and if we live life going a step forward and then two steps back, we go further away from our dreams. The farther we go, the more impossible it will seem to get what we want.
It's also important to acknowledge the situation we're in. We all live in different environments and have different methods of coping with reality. The important thing is to be in touch with the things that happen around us. Knowing how our surroundings affect us will give us clues on what to do with the inevitable limitations set on us.
We can sometimes fall flat on our faces and commit social faux pas along the way. If this happens, just remember it's not the end of the world. We get up, keep moving, and come up with an even better plan. We don't need to be super heroes to avoid traps. What we need is an interminable spirit to continue on despite mistakes.
We have to be our own biggest supporter, the person who cheers the loudest during game time. Otherwise, who will believe in a person who doubts? Let us start chasing our dreams, stop running away from harsh reality, and take the time to map our life's direction.
Steering Yourself towards the Path You Choose
10/12/2009
Being a Great Team Player
Being a Great Team Player
Good social skills are a plus in a leader, but not a necessity.
Some people make great leaders, and while they can manage the team seamlessly, some have a hard time allowing another team member to take over the leader's role. Do you feel this way? Do you work well with others or would you rather do things alone if you can't be the leader? Being a team player requires a very different mind set.
Yes, good social skills are a plus in a leader, but not a necessity. As a team leader, people have to follow you because you are considered an authority in your field. Though you may not be well-liked by the people on your team, they still have to follow you out of duty or respect.
But to be a great team player is altogether another issue. You need to work well with the others on your team and complement their skills with yours. It's all about getting along professionally and personally. You have to be able to manage your emotions and be able to communicate to your fellow members effectively. You must adapt an intuitive sense of others in order to become understanding of all of your team members. You will need to consider everyone's viewpoints in order to make the good of the collective group stronger and more effective.
The skill set for the Team Captain is crucial to the success of any team, but more than that are the individual capabilities of the players who do all the detailed tasks. The members of the team are usually the people recognized for coordination and hard work.
Sometimes, as a team member, your goals will differ from the goals of others. You must make sure to keep the group's goals as your priority. You also should have the initiative to learn more about the dynamics of the team and what it takes to accomplish the desired results. Try to think about reaching that goal as the absolute destination, and not just a possibility.
Each player must recognize his or her individual strengths to provide for the team effort and which skills are most useful. As a team member, you must establish your strength from the very beginning so that the leader is in a better position to put you in a task where you excel and are most comfortable.
Lastly, be helpful. There may be occasions when another member becomes so engulfed in their own tasks that they fail to realize how well the others are performing - or struggling. The "to each his own" attitude simply doesn't work in a team environment. By being more aware of the things around you, you completely eliminate any kind of weakness and actually become a force to be reckoned with - an outstanding team member - an possibly the next team leader.
More on the power of confidence
Good social skills are a plus in a leader, but not a necessity.
Some people make great leaders, and while they can manage the team seamlessly, some have a hard time allowing another team member to take over the leader's role. Do you feel this way? Do you work well with others or would you rather do things alone if you can't be the leader? Being a team player requires a very different mind set.
Yes, good social skills are a plus in a leader, but not a necessity. As a team leader, people have to follow you because you are considered an authority in your field. Though you may not be well-liked by the people on your team, they still have to follow you out of duty or respect.
But to be a great team player is altogether another issue. You need to work well with the others on your team and complement their skills with yours. It's all about getting along professionally and personally. You have to be able to manage your emotions and be able to communicate to your fellow members effectively. You must adapt an intuitive sense of others in order to become understanding of all of your team members. You will need to consider everyone's viewpoints in order to make the good of the collective group stronger and more effective.
The skill set for the Team Captain is crucial to the success of any team, but more than that are the individual capabilities of the players who do all the detailed tasks. The members of the team are usually the people recognized for coordination and hard work.
Sometimes, as a team member, your goals will differ from the goals of others. You must make sure to keep the group's goals as your priority. You also should have the initiative to learn more about the dynamics of the team and what it takes to accomplish the desired results. Try to think about reaching that goal as the absolute destination, and not just a possibility.
Each player must recognize his or her individual strengths to provide for the team effort and which skills are most useful. As a team member, you must establish your strength from the very beginning so that the leader is in a better position to put you in a task where you excel and are most comfortable.
Lastly, be helpful. There may be occasions when another member becomes so engulfed in their own tasks that they fail to realize how well the others are performing - or struggling. The "to each his own" attitude simply doesn't work in a team environment. By being more aware of the things around you, you completely eliminate any kind of weakness and actually become a force to be reckoned with - an outstanding team member - an possibly the next team leader.
More on the power of confidence
10/09/2009
The Difference between Working Hard and Working Smart
The Difference between Working Hard and Working Smart
Getting more done in less time is somewhat of an art.
Some people may claim that they are one of the best workers in their workplace simply because of the hours they put in. This isn't necessarily true. To an extent, you do have to dedicate time for work. In the end, however, it's the quality of your work that people look at rather that the hours of service you gave.
Accomplishing more in less time requires much effort, but keep in mind that working smart comes before everything else. Burning the midnight oil at some point can be detrimental to your health. If you lack sleep and are fatigued with all the demands placed on you, your work may suffer. You'll find it difficult to focus when you're too tired to do anything else.
Yes, working hard reaps a lot of rewards, but experience tells us that the best way to achieve success is to work hard at working smart. How do you do this? First, you have to be more flexible. Changes come everyday. Sometimes, in the middle of the project you may find that you will have to change a lot of the things. Instead of complaining, know that this comes with the territory.
Another problem is that people tend to procrastinate. If you do this, you definitely will end up disappointing more people than pleasing them. That's why it's important to plan ahead. Work out the steps to take and take it easy. Haste makes waste! The more you panic, the messier your output becomes.
Simply observe your colleagues and you will notice that those who are most successful are the ones who are able to multi-task and balance their responsibilities. Juggling several things all at one time does not have to be confusing. You just have to know which of these tasks go together so that you are not left bewildered.
Double the time does not necessarily mean double the result. It helps to update yourself on the recent technological advances. Know which tools or programs work best for you and avoid stressing yourself with things that are just way too confusing. The good thing about today's developments is that designers have made software simpler and easier to use.
To succeed and achieve higher plateaus requires that we constantly have to strategize. You will find that communication has given you easy access to reading materials (online, especially), that will help you achieve your goal. Read and learn. In the end, you'll realize just how much you've learned and how it's quite simple to put the time saving tools and programs into smarter working habits.
Being Productive in Spite of Workload
Getting more done in less time is somewhat of an art.
Some people may claim that they are one of the best workers in their workplace simply because of the hours they put in. This isn't necessarily true. To an extent, you do have to dedicate time for work. In the end, however, it's the quality of your work that people look at rather that the hours of service you gave.
Accomplishing more in less time requires much effort, but keep in mind that working smart comes before everything else. Burning the midnight oil at some point can be detrimental to your health. If you lack sleep and are fatigued with all the demands placed on you, your work may suffer. You'll find it difficult to focus when you're too tired to do anything else.
Yes, working hard reaps a lot of rewards, but experience tells us that the best way to achieve success is to work hard at working smart. How do you do this? First, you have to be more flexible. Changes come everyday. Sometimes, in the middle of the project you may find that you will have to change a lot of the things. Instead of complaining, know that this comes with the territory.
Another problem is that people tend to procrastinate. If you do this, you definitely will end up disappointing more people than pleasing them. That's why it's important to plan ahead. Work out the steps to take and take it easy. Haste makes waste! The more you panic, the messier your output becomes.
Simply observe your colleagues and you will notice that those who are most successful are the ones who are able to multi-task and balance their responsibilities. Juggling several things all at one time does not have to be confusing. You just have to know which of these tasks go together so that you are not left bewildered.
Double the time does not necessarily mean double the result. It helps to update yourself on the recent technological advances. Know which tools or programs work best for you and avoid stressing yourself with things that are just way too confusing. The good thing about today's developments is that designers have made software simpler and easier to use.
To succeed and achieve higher plateaus requires that we constantly have to strategize. You will find that communication has given you easy access to reading materials (online, especially), that will help you achieve your goal. Read and learn. In the end, you'll realize just how much you've learned and how it's quite simple to put the time saving tools and programs into smarter working habits.
Being Productive in Spite of Workload
10/06/2009
Improve Your Work Attitude
Improve Your Work Attitude
To have a happy and healthy work attitude, you have to manage your stress.
Office work is stressful and nearly impossible to avoid. The real world puts so many demands on you that you sometimes have to find a balance between work and play. More often than not, work trumps personal time simply because it sustains your lifestyle.
But you don't have to forget your personal life just so you can continue your climb up the ladder of success. What you do apart from your job helps you relax your mind. If you give yourself time to relax, you will be better able to cope with work demands. The last thing you want is a burnout.
You have to manage your stress to have a happy and healthy work attitude. There are ways to relieve the stress while you are at work. The secret is to not wait for the stress levels to go up. Here are a few tips that can help you improve your work attitude so that you can be a better performer -
1. Start living a healthy lifestyle. With the right amount of nutrients in your body and the proper exercise, you will find that you have more energy, and with more energy to back you up, you are able to achieve more things with the amount of time allotted for your job.
2. Manage your time by making a schedule. Cramming is the worst possible thing you can ever do. Having a calendar to follow enables you to know how much you can allocate for a certain type of work and you an spread your responsibilities in a way that you fulfill a little of what you have to do each day.
3. Keep a happy and healthy attitude. Smiling helps you relax. This may sometimes be the most difficult thing to do, especially when pressure builds up. Nonetheless, you also have to trust in yourself and in your abilities. Sometimes, things just can't be accomplished immediately, and that's a truth you have to accept.
4. Avoid procrastination. Know that the more you put off work for later, the more it piles up. Time is of the essence and every minute spent doing nothing is a minute wasted.
5. Clear your clutter. Signs of clutter are generally perceived by the mind as a distraction. Being organized helps you find things more easily, and time spent looking for a file is also time wasted.
Work attitude is connected to work habit. Just make sure that you equip yourself with the right attitude and know that the more willing you are to attain and finish your responsibilities, the more people will also respect you.
If you surround yourself with people who look up to you, your work environment will definitely be more pleasant. Remember, happier people are generally more motivated and productive.
More on Motivation and Goals
To have a happy and healthy work attitude, you have to manage your stress.
Office work is stressful and nearly impossible to avoid. The real world puts so many demands on you that you sometimes have to find a balance between work and play. More often than not, work trumps personal time simply because it sustains your lifestyle.
But you don't have to forget your personal life just so you can continue your climb up the ladder of success. What you do apart from your job helps you relax your mind. If you give yourself time to relax, you will be better able to cope with work demands. The last thing you want is a burnout.
You have to manage your stress to have a happy and healthy work attitude. There are ways to relieve the stress while you are at work. The secret is to not wait for the stress levels to go up. Here are a few tips that can help you improve your work attitude so that you can be a better performer -
1. Start living a healthy lifestyle. With the right amount of nutrients in your body and the proper exercise, you will find that you have more energy, and with more energy to back you up, you are able to achieve more things with the amount of time allotted for your job.
2. Manage your time by making a schedule. Cramming is the worst possible thing you can ever do. Having a calendar to follow enables you to know how much you can allocate for a certain type of work and you an spread your responsibilities in a way that you fulfill a little of what you have to do each day.
3. Keep a happy and healthy attitude. Smiling helps you relax. This may sometimes be the most difficult thing to do, especially when pressure builds up. Nonetheless, you also have to trust in yourself and in your abilities. Sometimes, things just can't be accomplished immediately, and that's a truth you have to accept.
4. Avoid procrastination. Know that the more you put off work for later, the more it piles up. Time is of the essence and every minute spent doing nothing is a minute wasted.
5. Clear your clutter. Signs of clutter are generally perceived by the mind as a distraction. Being organized helps you find things more easily, and time spent looking for a file is also time wasted.
Work attitude is connected to work habit. Just make sure that you equip yourself with the right attitude and know that the more willing you are to attain and finish your responsibilities, the more people will also respect you.
If you surround yourself with people who look up to you, your work environment will definitely be more pleasant. Remember, happier people are generally more motivated and productive.
More on Motivation and Goals
10/03/2009
Emotional Maturity and Happiness
Emotional Maturity and Happiness
Emotional maturity is the ability to see life through a clear glass. The capability to manage your emotions and take full responsibility for your life is one of the necessary skills that will enable you to achieve victory, stability, and bliss.
Happiness can be equated to how you feel about yourself. The more confident you are, the more you are able to see the brighter side of life. When you feel depressed, you bring yourself and others down with you. You go on a downward spiral until you break down. You go through the daily struggles of life with no hope for a happier tomorrow. You start to lose the will to even attempt to overcome the smallest obstacle.
The truth is, you are in charge of our destiny. Your happiness is connected with how you see yourself as a person. You have to know that you are worth something.
There may be instances when it is appropriate to feel guilty and resentful. You have either totally lost faith in the system or you may no longer value the things that are thrown in your path. You are, of course, allowed to experience these emotions. However, you have to let them go quickly so that they leave no long term negative residual effects. To get stuck in a rut is detrimental to both your health and sanity.
You shouldn't hide from the bad things happening to you, neither should you embrace them. You just have to see them as they are. It's a dilemma you have to overcome and a puzzle you have to solve. Problems don't go away when you sulk. Find ways to get rid of the negative energy and move on. When you constantly look back, you will dwell on what's past. The future is there waiting, and you will only see it if you look forward.
You have to dream, anticipate, plan, and make goals to achieve what you desire. Live your life in the present to attain the future that you want. Negative emotions, when given time and energy, will take their toll on some aspect of your life in the future.
There is no need to beat yourself up because of your unrealistic expectations. Everyone goes through difficult times, and when this happens to you, make sure you understand the situation. Analyze and think of solutions. It's a whole lot better than sulking. The more you evaluate the problem, the better your chances of finding the answer to happiness.
Be confident and Trust Yourself
Emotional maturity is the ability to see life through a clear glass. The capability to manage your emotions and take full responsibility for your life is one of the necessary skills that will enable you to achieve victory, stability, and bliss.
Happiness can be equated to how you feel about yourself. The more confident you are, the more you are able to see the brighter side of life. When you feel depressed, you bring yourself and others down with you. You go on a downward spiral until you break down. You go through the daily struggles of life with no hope for a happier tomorrow. You start to lose the will to even attempt to overcome the smallest obstacle.
The truth is, you are in charge of our destiny. Your happiness is connected with how you see yourself as a person. You have to know that you are worth something.
There may be instances when it is appropriate to feel guilty and resentful. You have either totally lost faith in the system or you may no longer value the things that are thrown in your path. You are, of course, allowed to experience these emotions. However, you have to let them go quickly so that they leave no long term negative residual effects. To get stuck in a rut is detrimental to both your health and sanity.
You shouldn't hide from the bad things happening to you, neither should you embrace them. You just have to see them as they are. It's a dilemma you have to overcome and a puzzle you have to solve. Problems don't go away when you sulk. Find ways to get rid of the negative energy and move on. When you constantly look back, you will dwell on what's past. The future is there waiting, and you will only see it if you look forward.
You have to dream, anticipate, plan, and make goals to achieve what you desire. Live your life in the present to attain the future that you want. Negative emotions, when given time and energy, will take their toll on some aspect of your life in the future.
There is no need to beat yourself up because of your unrealistic expectations. Everyone goes through difficult times, and when this happens to you, make sure you understand the situation. Analyze and think of solutions. It's a whole lot better than sulking. The more you evaluate the problem, the better your chances of finding the answer to happiness.
Be confident and Trust Yourself
10/02/2009
How to Talk Your Way to a Promotion
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it
It takes guts to move up the corporate ladder. The daily grind of work can be stressful, and when you are up against people who are equally competitive, you need to make an even bigger impression. In today's competitive world, the possibility of succeeding becomes more difficult and challenging. You work yourself to the bone, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same position with the same measly salary.
When killing yourself with work doesn't bring you closer to your desired position, gather up the courage to negotiate with your supervisor. All types of successful negotiations begin with being clear about what you truly want from the company. Being aggressive and pushy may just get you into trouble. Your supervisors demand respect, and even when they are at fault, you need to be the humble person here.
The best way to negotiate is to show the higher-ups why you deserve the job. Yearly employee evaluations are always the best times to bring up a matter or talk about an issue. Be diplomatic and tactful when you tell them why you deserve the job. Never forget to mention your capabilities and highlight your strengths. People get promoted when they meet and exceed the expectations set for them. Devote time to doing your job well, and if you have been successful, it will be to showcase your quality of work.
So how exactly can you make your work better? Well, you need to take a step back and see how your specific duties contribute to the bigger picture. Research if you must so that you arm yourself with the skills needed to fulfill that dream position. Focus your research on a specific field. It helps to know the market trend, and when you display immense knowledge on a certain subject matter, your superiors will feel that you are able to make the right choice when the time comes.
Of course, part of every learning experience is making mistakes. You should not get frustrated when something goes wrong. Nobody's perfect and neither are you! Accept your limitations and be open to suggestions from those with experience. Ask for help if you must because people will respect you more if they see that you are willing to learn.
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it. Keep your focus on the right path and develop the attitude of a go-getter. You will definitely get that coveted position if you work on your skills and your attitude.
Work for a Happy Life
It takes guts to move up the corporate ladder. The daily grind of work can be stressful, and when you are up against people who are equally competitive, you need to make an even bigger impression. In today's competitive world, the possibility of succeeding becomes more difficult and challenging. You work yourself to the bone, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same position with the same measly salary.
When killing yourself with work doesn't bring you closer to your desired position, gather up the courage to negotiate with your supervisor. All types of successful negotiations begin with being clear about what you truly want from the company. Being aggressive and pushy may just get you into trouble. Your supervisors demand respect, and even when they are at fault, you need to be the humble person here.
The best way to negotiate is to show the higher-ups why you deserve the job. Yearly employee evaluations are always the best times to bring up a matter or talk about an issue. Be diplomatic and tactful when you tell them why you deserve the job. Never forget to mention your capabilities and highlight your strengths. People get promoted when they meet and exceed the expectations set for them. Devote time to doing your job well, and if you have been successful, it will be to showcase your quality of work.
So how exactly can you make your work better? Well, you need to take a step back and see how your specific duties contribute to the bigger picture. Research if you must so that you arm yourself with the skills needed to fulfill that dream position. Focus your research on a specific field. It helps to know the market trend, and when you display immense knowledge on a certain subject matter, your superiors will feel that you are able to make the right choice when the time comes.
Of course, part of every learning experience is making mistakes. You should not get frustrated when something goes wrong. Nobody's perfect and neither are you! Accept your limitations and be open to suggestions from those with experience. Ask for help if you must because people will respect you more if they see that you are willing to learn.
When you dream of success, you have to plan for ways to achieve it. Keep your focus on the right path and develop the attitude of a go-getter. You will definitely get that coveted position if you work on your skills and your attitude.
Work for a Happy Life
10/01/2009
Woe is Me
Woe is Me
Self pity is a shortcut to the path of destruction.
When times are tough, it is always easy to give in to depression and constantly moan about the woes of life. There are just too many worries to constantly think about: bills to pay, family to care for, and so on. The problems never seem to end. The fact is, they never do end! As you make your journey through life, you will always encounter barriers and hurdles. These are trials that test your strength and improve your will. Rather than simply giving up and crying your frustrations out, you may want to look around you and see that no one is exempt from problems.
Self pity may get you sympathy at first, but if this is a repetitive behavior, don't be surprised if you lose friends along the way. No one wants to be surrounded with sadness, and no one can take a whiner for too long a period. It's very unlikely that you will ever meet a person who never struggles with frustration. This comes with the territory of being human. It is not wrong to be frustrated, but it is how we handle our frustration that counts.
One of the most effective ways to change how you react to negativity is to change how you see it and what you do about it. When you give in to depression, you are basically saying that you don't have it in you to solve the problem. In fact, you are just aggravating the situation. You can yell, curse, and cry, yet the problem still remains unsolved.
On the other hand, a more productive solution would be to view frustrations as a chance for improving your abilities to solve problems. If you get frustrated, try to have an outlet. Go talk to a friend, visit a specialist, or pound your fists into a pillow. You need to let it out and find a way to express your explosive emotions. Don't keep them bottled up inside of you. The thing about self-pity is that if you can't get others to feel sorry for you, you can always just feel sorry for yourself.
Pity parties are always a party of one because no one wants to be on the guest list. Just know that when you catch yourself in this state, you tend to lose perspective. You lose sight of the big picture and will be unable to spot the solution that may just be right under your nose. When you are too caught up in your problems, you'll be too busy to even notice the faintest flicker of hope.
You must find ways to bounce back. Be the victor, not the victim. Make your goal in life focusing on solutions and learning not to quit. Instead of making excuses on your failure, learn to get back up and let your creative juices flow so that you can achieve what you want most - certainly not self pity.
You can Learn to Love Yourself
Self pity is a shortcut to the path of destruction.
When times are tough, it is always easy to give in to depression and constantly moan about the woes of life. There are just too many worries to constantly think about: bills to pay, family to care for, and so on. The problems never seem to end. The fact is, they never do end! As you make your journey through life, you will always encounter barriers and hurdles. These are trials that test your strength and improve your will. Rather than simply giving up and crying your frustrations out, you may want to look around you and see that no one is exempt from problems.
Self pity may get you sympathy at first, but if this is a repetitive behavior, don't be surprised if you lose friends along the way. No one wants to be surrounded with sadness, and no one can take a whiner for too long a period. It's very unlikely that you will ever meet a person who never struggles with frustration. This comes with the territory of being human. It is not wrong to be frustrated, but it is how we handle our frustration that counts.
One of the most effective ways to change how you react to negativity is to change how you see it and what you do about it. When you give in to depression, you are basically saying that you don't have it in you to solve the problem. In fact, you are just aggravating the situation. You can yell, curse, and cry, yet the problem still remains unsolved.
On the other hand, a more productive solution would be to view frustrations as a chance for improving your abilities to solve problems. If you get frustrated, try to have an outlet. Go talk to a friend, visit a specialist, or pound your fists into a pillow. You need to let it out and find a way to express your explosive emotions. Don't keep them bottled up inside of you. The thing about self-pity is that if you can't get others to feel sorry for you, you can always just feel sorry for yourself.
Pity parties are always a party of one because no one wants to be on the guest list. Just know that when you catch yourself in this state, you tend to lose perspective. You lose sight of the big picture and will be unable to spot the solution that may just be right under your nose. When you are too caught up in your problems, you'll be too busy to even notice the faintest flicker of hope.
You must find ways to bounce back. Be the victor, not the victim. Make your goal in life focusing on solutions and learning not to quit. Instead of making excuses on your failure, learn to get back up and let your creative juices flow so that you can achieve what you want most - certainly not self pity.
You can Learn to Love Yourself
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