How to Deal with a Moody Person
There are many reasons why a person has violent mood swings. They may not feel well at the particular moment, or they may be experiencing some sort of dilemma that occupies most of their thoughts. Some people are just moody by nature. They have regular ups and downs as a part of their daily routine. Dealing with this type of person is never easy. The following bits of advice will help you in these situations:
1. Know their basic temperament. There are two types of grumpy people. The first is one who has an occasional bad day. They may have lost an important business deal or had a misunderstanding with their colleagues, whatever it is, there was a reason for their foul mood.
There's also the kind that goes through the emotional roller coaster regularly. This is the type of person who just brings you down with them because they always look at the glass as half-empty. People like this are usually extremely sensitive, and any little thing gets them on a roll towards self destruction. If faced with that kind of person, never feed their fire. Step back and avoid circumstances that can set them off.
2. Learn to read people. While some may readily share their emotions, there are others who withdraw and displace their inner feelings by having inappropriate reactions to small incidents. People like these will rant and rave about the most trivial of matters when what they are trying to do is mask their vulnerability.
The best way to deal with people who do this is to find out the underlying causes of their anger. Ask them how they are and offer to listen to them when they are calm enough to talk. Never force them to open up and talk about it, otherwise they'll retreat further into their shell. If they really refuse to talk, simply take a step back and let them know that they can approach you when they are ready. When we have problems, we always need to talk about the issues when the time is right.
The same goes for people who withdraw. If you complain about them a lot, chances are they will never look to you for comfort. Give them time to cool off, and while they do, never talk about them to the others who are not concerned. Be respectful of their personal privacy.
3. Put things in perspective. It's important to know that you are not responsible for someone else's mood. The crucial thing is to become the objective person. Step back and observe the things that trigger their anger. If they are grouchy towards you even when you haven't done anything, stand your ground and let them know that you will not tolerate that kind of treatment.
Deciding when enough is enough is entirely up to you. When you deal with a moody person, you have to be brave enough to also say stop. At the same time, you have to know that you need not sink to their level. If they cuss a lot and slam things when they are upset, don't do the same. Be the type of person who is easy to get along with.
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8/30/2009
8/27/2009
How to Win Arguments
How to Win Arguments
People argue differently. Some shout while others sulk in a corner. The key to winning a verbal dispute is to identify the person's tactical maneuvers. You need to learn the art of disarming your opponents with ploys of your own.
Arguments will always be a part of human relationships. The difference in upbringing and beliefs make each person unique. Often times, people view a disagreement in a negative light. While getting into a fuss with another person can be stressful, it has its upside as well.
Arguments can open the doors to change. As with any other person, we all need to adjust and learn the value compromise, or meeting a person half way. It's even possible that you might be wrong!
Some people like to shout when they bicker. They seem to get upset even with the most trifle issues. People who shout lack control of their emotions. By telling them to put a lid on it will only make matters worse. It's always about power and aggression. In cases like these, you should not fight fire with fire. They will only shut you out and refuse to listen to what you have to say.
Consider backing off and giving that other person a chance to cool down. Then, approach them calmly and tactfully. Make them aware of their unhealthy way of venting out emotions. Tell them that you won't engage when they are in that mode. If their outburst persists, leave. Those people have anger management issues that can only be resolved with the help of an expert.
Others like to remain quiet and stoic when they are upset. The more you force it out of them, the more difficult they become. They will often leave you frustrated and helpless because they won't respond in self-defense. This may be their defense mechanism at work; their way of feeling safe during times of stress
You have to stop the confrontation. Try writing what you feel because while they can tune you out, they won't be able to tune out the written argument. If they are your friend, they will read your letter. Never suppress important issues. Broach the subject calmly. Try to lighten their mood and brighten their spirits by being humble and objective.
Then, there are the 'sulkers'. They slam doors, grumble and mutter, and when you ask them what is wrong, they keep their answers abrupt and vague. While shouters are difficult to deal with, these people can be just as destructive. The secret is to deal with them on neutral ground. Give them time and find ways to come to an agreement.
Whatever type of argument you find yourself in, it always helps to be the bigger person. Never blow your fuse. Try to be rational about the situation. People are likely to respect those who see things as they are. Never sugarcoat your opinions, but you also have to be diplomatic. The best way to earn their respect is to show them that you value their thoughts and emotions as well.
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People argue differently. Some shout while others sulk in a corner. The key to winning a verbal dispute is to identify the person's tactical maneuvers. You need to learn the art of disarming your opponents with ploys of your own.
Arguments will always be a part of human relationships. The difference in upbringing and beliefs make each person unique. Often times, people view a disagreement in a negative light. While getting into a fuss with another person can be stressful, it has its upside as well.
Arguments can open the doors to change. As with any other person, we all need to adjust and learn the value compromise, or meeting a person half way. It's even possible that you might be wrong!
Some people like to shout when they bicker. They seem to get upset even with the most trifle issues. People who shout lack control of their emotions. By telling them to put a lid on it will only make matters worse. It's always about power and aggression. In cases like these, you should not fight fire with fire. They will only shut you out and refuse to listen to what you have to say.
Consider backing off and giving that other person a chance to cool down. Then, approach them calmly and tactfully. Make them aware of their unhealthy way of venting out emotions. Tell them that you won't engage when they are in that mode. If their outburst persists, leave. Those people have anger management issues that can only be resolved with the help of an expert.
Others like to remain quiet and stoic when they are upset. The more you force it out of them, the more difficult they become. They will often leave you frustrated and helpless because they won't respond in self-defense. This may be their defense mechanism at work; their way of feeling safe during times of stress
You have to stop the confrontation. Try writing what you feel because while they can tune you out, they won't be able to tune out the written argument. If they are your friend, they will read your letter. Never suppress important issues. Broach the subject calmly. Try to lighten their mood and brighten their spirits by being humble and objective.
Then, there are the 'sulkers'. They slam doors, grumble and mutter, and when you ask them what is wrong, they keep their answers abrupt and vague. While shouters are difficult to deal with, these people can be just as destructive. The secret is to deal with them on neutral ground. Give them time and find ways to come to an agreement.
Whatever type of argument you find yourself in, it always helps to be the bigger person. Never blow your fuse. Try to be rational about the situation. People are likely to respect those who see things as they are. Never sugarcoat your opinions, but you also have to be diplomatic. The best way to earn their respect is to show them that you value their thoughts and emotions as well.
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8/24/2009
The Innate Power of a Hug
The Innate Power of a Hug
Believers of the law of attraction say that we are connected to each other biologically, to the world chemically, and to the universe atomically. Whatever our personal beliefs are, there is one thing that holds true, and that is we all live through the power of connection.
The problem now lies in the fact that most of us suppose that we should live apart from the rest. We may interact with other people on a daily basis, but at the end of the day, we choose to handle and face our problems all on our own.
Standing up for what we believe in and being accountable for the choices we make is an entirely good trait to have, but there’s a fine line between being courageous in standing up for ourselves and pushing people away simply because we don’t want to involve them in our personal issues.
Fact is, we need connections with other people, particularly with those who care for us. Even babies know this most basic need. Studies prove that babies who grow up with the power of touch become happier and healthier individuals.
As adults, we have to know the importance of human contact. A hug makes a world of difference in a person’s outlook in life. Hugs connect people beyond space and beyond time. With two arms wrapped around our body, friendships can deepen and become more meaningful.
Time and distance are immaterial when it comes to connection. Though hugs may not be as easy to do for some people, we must accept that touch is a part of our five senses.
We need to know how to communicate with others beyond language. After all, words only go so far. Physical communication is a way to send forth a message. With a mere embrace, we can tell people what we really think of them.
When stress is present in our lives, we need a way to relax. Whatever method you employ, there is no better cure for it than a hug.
So, if you find yourself in the crossroads of your life, seek out a friend or a family member. Ask for their comfort with the simple use of their two arms. Wrap them around your waist and immediately feel the connection with another kindred soul. Try it and see for yourself just how powerful and miraculous the simple gesture of a hug can be.
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Believers of the law of attraction say that we are connected to each other biologically, to the world chemically, and to the universe atomically. Whatever our personal beliefs are, there is one thing that holds true, and that is we all live through the power of connection.
The problem now lies in the fact that most of us suppose that we should live apart from the rest. We may interact with other people on a daily basis, but at the end of the day, we choose to handle and face our problems all on our own.
Standing up for what we believe in and being accountable for the choices we make is an entirely good trait to have, but there’s a fine line between being courageous in standing up for ourselves and pushing people away simply because we don’t want to involve them in our personal issues.
Fact is, we need connections with other people, particularly with those who care for us. Even babies know this most basic need. Studies prove that babies who grow up with the power of touch become happier and healthier individuals.
As adults, we have to know the importance of human contact. A hug makes a world of difference in a person’s outlook in life. Hugs connect people beyond space and beyond time. With two arms wrapped around our body, friendships can deepen and become more meaningful.
Time and distance are immaterial when it comes to connection. Though hugs may not be as easy to do for some people, we must accept that touch is a part of our five senses.
We need to know how to communicate with others beyond language. After all, words only go so far. Physical communication is a way to send forth a message. With a mere embrace, we can tell people what we really think of them.
When stress is present in our lives, we need a way to relax. Whatever method you employ, there is no better cure for it than a hug.
So, if you find yourself in the crossroads of your life, seek out a friend or a family member. Ask for their comfort with the simple use of their two arms. Wrap them around your waist and immediately feel the connection with another kindred soul. Try it and see for yourself just how powerful and miraculous the simple gesture of a hug can be.
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8/21/2009
A Healthy Balance between Work and Family
A Healthy Balance between Work and Family
Do you think that risking your family’s happiness is worth the rewards you get from a job well done at work? It's very important that you balance these two aspects of your life. So how do you keep things running smoothly?
One of the major issues faced by working parents is that they are unable to properly balance their time. Women in particular feel that they are not able to spend quality time with their children because their jobs demand so much of their time. They need to fulfill their responsibilities at work before they can focus their attention to their family. Though work is an important part of life, the family should also be on top of the list of priorities.
Achieve balance by setting up time for both. If your family’s basic needs rest solely on your income, you can’t also risk your job. Leave work in the office and spend some quality time with your loved ones. Use your spare time wisely.
A picnic at the park or a night spent sitting on the couch to watch movies matter a lot. Your partner and your children are likely to be happy if they see you stick to the plan.
A mother in particular plays many roles. She needs to be a wife, friend, and confidant to the people in her house. Balancing career and family doesn't have to be viewed as an insurmountable feat, it just requires a bit of juggling. Assign tasks to the other family members as well and make a list of jobs to do around the house. By delegating chores, everyone will also know that their contributions help in making the family happy.
The demands of work and family put a lot of pressure on everyone. Seek help from other family members and let them learn the value of collaboration and unity. After all, to attain an ideal family life, each member must work at it.
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Do you think that risking your family’s happiness is worth the rewards you get from a job well done at work? It's very important that you balance these two aspects of your life. So how do you keep things running smoothly?
One of the major issues faced by working parents is that they are unable to properly balance their time. Women in particular feel that they are not able to spend quality time with their children because their jobs demand so much of their time. They need to fulfill their responsibilities at work before they can focus their attention to their family. Though work is an important part of life, the family should also be on top of the list of priorities.
Achieve balance by setting up time for both. If your family’s basic needs rest solely on your income, you can’t also risk your job. Leave work in the office and spend some quality time with your loved ones. Use your spare time wisely.
A picnic at the park or a night spent sitting on the couch to watch movies matter a lot. Your partner and your children are likely to be happy if they see you stick to the plan.
A mother in particular plays many roles. She needs to be a wife, friend, and confidant to the people in her house. Balancing career and family doesn't have to be viewed as an insurmountable feat, it just requires a bit of juggling. Assign tasks to the other family members as well and make a list of jobs to do around the house. By delegating chores, everyone will also know that their contributions help in making the family happy.
The demands of work and family put a lot of pressure on everyone. Seek help from other family members and let them learn the value of collaboration and unity. After all, to attain an ideal family life, each member must work at it.
More on Personal Development and Goal Setting here
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