Caring More About Yourself than How Others "See" You
Fact is, you just can't please all of the people all of the time. There are those that we get along with more than others. This doesn't mean that we have license to be nice to only some of the people we meet and to be rude to those we don't care for. Life is not a popularity contest. Making it to the top of the ladder means that certain critical decisions we make may not make everyone happy.
Successful people have to make tough choices. Leaders know that it's impossible to keep everyone happy and satisfied. We all live in a democratic society. Sometimes we have to do what's best for the majority, even if it means that the others won't like us for the decisions we make.
A "thick skin" is a prerequisite for success. If our conscience is clean and there's no doubt in our minds that we did the right thing, we have to continue on with life. Politicians and corporate leaders deal with this dilemma all the time. Consider the daily ordeal that these people have to endure and think about the great job they are doing.
The important thing is, they donot allow their success to be dependent on the approval of others.
The more we put off our decision, the harder it is to achieve anything in life. As much as we want to be respected and liked by everyone we meet, people are just built differently from each other. Everyone has their own belief system that they pattern their life after. Belief systems are based on culture and past experience. The world is just too vast a place to expect that all people think alike.
To be successful, we need to earn the respect of people and at the same time not become dependent on their approval. It's a matter of internal confidence to forge our belief system in spite of what other's think. This requires risk taking and tough decision making. It is having the courage to persevere. It's all about being self-assured, knowing that we have everyone's best interest at heart, and believing in our cause, which allows us to push through with our true calling despite what others think.
When it comes to being liked and respected, it is imperative to remember that some will approve of us while others won't, and as long as we remain true to our values, we know that we are living our life according to how we truly want it.
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7/31/2009
Playing to Win
Playing to Win
Most of us would like to succeed at every endeavor and be superhuman. Unfortunately, unlike those superheroes we know of, we bleed and get hurt every time we fail. So, instead of pursuing our goal, we back out and quit. Life is a game, and our goal may not have to be to win in every round. What should
be important is that we learn from the rules so that we really do get to triumph in the end.
In our professional lives, we would like to be with a team of winners, but to make this even remotely possible, we need to create a good relationship among the players. We all need a sort of wake up call to realize that winning is rarely easy. It takes a lot of hard work, patience, and time.
We need to celebrate every single moment of that journey. Yes, we may make bad choices along the way, but at least we know whether they work or not. Once we make that decision to bravely venture into the unknown, we need to take careful and deliberate steps.
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When we play the game of life, we also need to realize that in order to win, we must come up with innovative ideas. We need to let go of perceived notions and let our creative juices flow. If we become willing to test things out, we get to strategize even better. Yes, we may be unsuccessful, but the disappointment is not the entire point of the journey.
The most accomplished individuals in today’s world have failed, but they let their thirst for victory guide them through the entire process. In the end, their failures were soon forgotten because what people ultimately remember is their courage to take risks. In fact, many have become icons that inspire others to follow in their footsteps.
To succeed in life, we need to face each day with a kind of hope that gives us the strength to overcome hurdles and still smile after a sad and depressing day because we know that things can always get better.
We need to play to win. As long as we have the strength to wake up each morning and drag ourselves out of bed, we can still do something that will make a difference in our lives.
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Most of us would like to succeed at every endeavor and be superhuman. Unfortunately, unlike those superheroes we know of, we bleed and get hurt every time we fail. So, instead of pursuing our goal, we back out and quit. Life is a game, and our goal may not have to be to win in every round. What should
be important is that we learn from the rules so that we really do get to triumph in the end.
In our professional lives, we would like to be with a team of winners, but to make this even remotely possible, we need to create a good relationship among the players. We all need a sort of wake up call to realize that winning is rarely easy. It takes a lot of hard work, patience, and time.
We need to celebrate every single moment of that journey. Yes, we may make bad choices along the way, but at least we know whether they work or not. Once we make that decision to bravely venture into the unknown, we need to take careful and deliberate steps.
More personal development here
When we play the game of life, we also need to realize that in order to win, we must come up with innovative ideas. We need to let go of perceived notions and let our creative juices flow. If we become willing to test things out, we get to strategize even better. Yes, we may be unsuccessful, but the disappointment is not the entire point of the journey.
The most accomplished individuals in today’s world have failed, but they let their thirst for victory guide them through the entire process. In the end, their failures were soon forgotten because what people ultimately remember is their courage to take risks. In fact, many have become icons that inspire others to follow in their footsteps.
To succeed in life, we need to face each day with a kind of hope that gives us the strength to overcome hurdles and still smile after a sad and depressing day because we know that things can always get better.
We need to play to win. As long as we have the strength to wake up each morning and drag ourselves out of bed, we can still do something that will make a difference in our lives.
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7/21/2009
Lighten Up and Enjoy Your Life
Lighten Up and Enjoy Your Life
Here's a clue on how improving your outlook in life helps you: take a look at the world’s leaders. Some of these people rose from nothing simply because they had hope and belief. They never stopped in their mission and did everything within their power to achieve success and happiness.
Unfortunately, many people have the mistaken notion that happiness and success are mutually exclusive concepts, and that to be on top, you have to step on others along the way. The road to success may be ridden with potholes, but a slow and sure journey towards the end is better than one that is done in a hurry.
You need to enjoy life and know that happiness is closer than you think.
What you need to know is that you are here to enjoy life and to fulfill your purpose. We all are meant to do something good, and we must take heed to our calling to feel this utter contentment. You might be distracted from the right path for many reasons, and as a result you gradually lose all hope until you end up in total misery.
But where is happiness and how can you attain it? Most people seek it in the future. They wait for certain things to happen for them before they can say that they are happy.
These short sighted individuals can never think in the present. A wise man understands what he possesses at the moment. There is nowhere but here and nothing but now.
Know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. You will have a sense of responsibility and this is what will keep your smile on despite adversities.
The peace and happiness you seek is already within you. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. We are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Your psyche knows no boundaries, so let your faith open your mind to unending possibilities.
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Here's a clue on how improving your outlook in life helps you: take a look at the world’s leaders. Some of these people rose from nothing simply because they had hope and belief. They never stopped in their mission and did everything within their power to achieve success and happiness.
Unfortunately, many people have the mistaken notion that happiness and success are mutually exclusive concepts, and that to be on top, you have to step on others along the way. The road to success may be ridden with potholes, but a slow and sure journey towards the end is better than one that is done in a hurry.
You need to enjoy life and know that happiness is closer than you think.
What you need to know is that you are here to enjoy life and to fulfill your purpose. We all are meant to do something good, and we must take heed to our calling to feel this utter contentment. You might be distracted from the right path for many reasons, and as a result you gradually lose all hope until you end up in total misery.
But where is happiness and how can you attain it? Most people seek it in the future. They wait for certain things to happen for them before they can say that they are happy.
These short sighted individuals can never think in the present. A wise man understands what he possesses at the moment. There is nowhere but here and nothing but now.
Know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. You will have a sense of responsibility and this is what will keep your smile on despite adversities.
The peace and happiness you seek is already within you. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. We are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Your psyche knows no boundaries, so let your faith open your mind to unending possibilities.
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7/20/2009
Personal Habits that Can Ruin Your Career
Personal Habits that Can Ruin Your Career
Let's say that you attend every meeting, work beyond the required number of hours, give constructive suggestions, and show up on time every morning. You are a model employee, but despite your amazing work conduct, you might not be as far along your career as you had hoped.
What’s wrong with this picture? You may not be asserting and advocating yourself enough, especially in the office. As ambitious as you are, you may still doubt yourself, and this hinders your success. As much as you try to be the best there is, you may still be committing a few mistakes along the way.
Could you be downplaying your accomplishments? Socially speaking, boys are encouraged to toot their own horn while girls are required to be more modest about their talents. Whether you are male or female, you must take a step forward and champion your accomplishments.
Your supervisors may be too busy to notice your accomplishments. Chances are that they don’t know what you’re doing, and you need to tell them. Help them become aware by sending short and humble notes that hint that you are proud of what you’ve done because of the number of hours you put into it. A simple message like that will not make people think that you are egotistical. It’s short and sweet, but it’ll surely open the eyes of your supervisors so that they can help you fast-track your career.
Could you be speaking in a less than professional tone? You may find yourself using a lot of slang when talking to your supervisors. These speaking habits may hurt you professionally. Be authoritative when you talk so that people will believe in what you have to say. If you know that what you’re saying is true, show it in your facade. People would rather listen to experts.
Are you confident enough? If you want to command attention and ask for the respect that you so deserve, you must let go of the fear of rejection. If companies can negotiate, so can you. Research on what you have to say and attend meetings well-prepared. If you know what you are talking about, then you’ll be ready to take your stand.
Everyone fears failure, so they simply take the coward’s way out and play it safe. It's perfectly understandable that you want your life’s course to run smoothly. You don’t want to get into a situation that threatens to destroy the reputation you built, but ironically, real growth occurs when you step out of your comfort zone and set foot in the new territory.
So if you want you career to blossom, you may just have to take a deep breath and go for it. This attitude is what can make people admire you. You just need the guts to play the game.
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Let's say that you attend every meeting, work beyond the required number of hours, give constructive suggestions, and show up on time every morning. You are a model employee, but despite your amazing work conduct, you might not be as far along your career as you had hoped.
What’s wrong with this picture? You may not be asserting and advocating yourself enough, especially in the office. As ambitious as you are, you may still doubt yourself, and this hinders your success. As much as you try to be the best there is, you may still be committing a few mistakes along the way.
Could you be downplaying your accomplishments? Socially speaking, boys are encouraged to toot their own horn while girls are required to be more modest about their talents. Whether you are male or female, you must take a step forward and champion your accomplishments.
Your supervisors may be too busy to notice your accomplishments. Chances are that they don’t know what you’re doing, and you need to tell them. Help them become aware by sending short and humble notes that hint that you are proud of what you’ve done because of the number of hours you put into it. A simple message like that will not make people think that you are egotistical. It’s short and sweet, but it’ll surely open the eyes of your supervisors so that they can help you fast-track your career.
Could you be speaking in a less than professional tone? You may find yourself using a lot of slang when talking to your supervisors. These speaking habits may hurt you professionally. Be authoritative when you talk so that people will believe in what you have to say. If you know that what you’re saying is true, show it in your facade. People would rather listen to experts.
Are you confident enough? If you want to command attention and ask for the respect that you so deserve, you must let go of the fear of rejection. If companies can negotiate, so can you. Research on what you have to say and attend meetings well-prepared. If you know what you are talking about, then you’ll be ready to take your stand.
Everyone fears failure, so they simply take the coward’s way out and play it safe. It's perfectly understandable that you want your life’s course to run smoothly. You don’t want to get into a situation that threatens to destroy the reputation you built, but ironically, real growth occurs when you step out of your comfort zone and set foot in the new territory.
So if you want you career to blossom, you may just have to take a deep breath and go for it. This attitude is what can make people admire you. You just need the guts to play the game.
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